I had been single for almost a decade, and I was feeling pretty frustrated.
So, partway into that I did what I usually do when feeling stuck: I asked myself, "What the f--k am I learning here??!"
And I began learning from dating coaches online. I did that for a good two years. And the main thing I learned was this: dating coaches are mostly teaching pick-up - how to get laid - which is a far cry from how to prepare yourself for a great partner, attract a great partner, or be happy in that partnership. So I kept learning, observing, and trying stuff...
I've seen both. Today technicians are in abundance, and healers are sorely needed.
So what is the difference? A technician, in my definition, is someone who isn't really going beyond their training. They stick to the protocols they were shown, don't generally have an intuitive sense of the body (because they weren't taught to appreciate it's wisdom or ways), and may even buy into fear-based views like, 'The brain doesn't make new brain cells after a certain age'. They work from their intellect, which is useful, but isn't the full range of their abilities - because we all have intuition.
In contrast, healers have an intuitive sense of the body, how it works, and they may even do awareness practices, like meditation. Healers also *trust* their intuition and work to develop this with things like meditation, shamanic states or even plant medicines. Plus they don't fear the natural world, or things like death or child-birth. They have faith in life, and they know that they don't *know* anything. They realize that whatever learnings they have are just a mental map, and a map is never the territory.
YOU WOULD THINK that sex in the 21st century, would be more...in the light. But the truth is, sex has only recently started to come out of the closet.
I wrote this post mostly for healers, activists, and concerned people who want to understand better why our world is the way it is today (insane), and how to help heal. And we really can't do that without looking at sexuality in our world today - especially the HUGE problem that still goes on, daily, with sexual abuse and molesting of not just young girls but also young boys.
So here's the low-down: According to FBI meta-data I found on Google, (and this fits with my other sources and observations), 5% of religious leaders are sexual predators. That's 1 in 20. Yes, this is a present-day statistic.
Hi, I'm Donovan Giraud. I'm a health coach, meditator and visionary, and I'm on a mission to help people heal themselves and evolve our world.