I had been single for almost a decade, and I was feeling pretty frustrated.
So, partway into that I did what I usually do when feeling stuck: I asked myself, "What the f--k am I learning here??!"
And I began learning from dating coaches online. I did that for a good two years. And the main thing I learned was this: dating coaches are mostly teaching pick-up - how to get laid - which is a far cry from how to prepare yourself for a great partner, attract a great partner, or be happy in that partnership. So I kept learning, observing, and trying stuff...
A wonderful introduction to the most helpful thing I use:
the Shambhala Meditation-Healing Tools.
I offer Energy Healings with my Shambhala Healing Tools. These treatments are equally effective remotely, since all life is connected through the Etheric Field.
For more, visit my Energy Healing page.
Ten years ago, I had just moved a small mountain town. It was winter, and I was really suffering. I was sooo cold.
In order to save money, my roommates had not turned on the heat yet. So I focused on the problem and eventually found my solution: I had to stop eating sugar. Sugar it turns out, is the most cooling food there is, and I had been addicted to it for a long time. I did this, one step at a time, and a month later I was experiencing the best health of my life - and I was a LOT warmer.
Moral of the story: diet can make a huge difference to body temperature! And hot weather is a great time to detoxify!
I've seen both. Today technicians are in abundance, and healers are sorely needed.
So what is the difference? A technician, in my definition, is someone who isn't really going beyond their training. They stick to the protocols they were shown, don't generally have an intuitive sense of the body (because they weren't taught to appreciate it's wisdom or ways), and may even buy into fear-based views like, 'The brain doesn't make new brain cells after a certain age'. They work from their intellect, which is useful, but isn't the full range of their abilities - because we all have intuition.
In contrast, healers have an intuitive sense of the body, how it works, and they may even do awareness practices, like meditation. Healers also *trust* their intuition and work to develop this with things like meditation, shamanic states or even plant medicines. Plus they don't fear the natural world, or things like death or child-birth. They have faith in life, and they know that they don't *know* anything. They realize that whatever learnings they have are just a mental map, and a map is never the territory.
"Sound and Color are the fastest ways to raise consciousness".
I heard this a while back, and I believe it is true. And especially as my sensitivity continued to grow, I began to notice color's effects on us. It's really about balancing our chakric energies - a chakra can be under-energized or over-energized. These are the 7 energy centers that run down the center of your body. Each one has a corresponding gland - your endocrine system.
So how do we use color to heal from things like digestive issues? or anxiety? or depression? or even fatigue?
If you're reading this, you probably just got trained, spent a lot of money, and now you're realizing that you need to do some marketing, and you really don't want to spend a lot of money at it. (this post is maybe best for those in a holistic service business).
So what is marketing anyway? Marketing is really just communication. It is the art and science of communicating your services in such a way that the right people take you up on your offer, and pay you.
Brainwave Optimization is one of the most advanced therapies on the planet. It is especially helpful for recovery from stroke, trauma, PTSD, concussions, addictions, insomnia and compulsions.
But the most commonly reported benefit is that after the 3rd session, people are saying, "I haven't slept this well in years."
Brainwave Optimization was invented about 15 years ago by a computer scientist, Lee Gerdes, after he was attacked by 3 teenagers, one with a baseball bat.
Today porn is a huge industry and a huge problem.
A while back I looked for research into the effects of watching porn on men, and here's what I found: a group of researchers went to study the effects of porn on men... but when they set out to find a control group, a group of men who never look at porn - they couldn't find any. Yikes.
The main consequences of porn are: it isolates and depletes men. It makes women have sex for money. And it basically separates men and women, and desecrates sex and love. It turns what should be beautiful and healing, into a business.
My own relationship to porn began when I was maybe 9 years old, and it has definitely been an addiction all throughout my teens and twenties and even until now, 2017.
For whatever it's worth, my first experiences around sexuality was of being shamed for talking or thinking about it (my early family was Catholic), And with my first girlfriend at 19, we mostly had sex in the car since we had to hide the fact that we were having sex at all.
I see three stages that we go on as we make the journey of nutritional healing:
Stage 1 - "The Health Nut".
Stage 2 - "The Health Coach".
Stage 3 - "The Nutritional Doctor-Healer".
Stage 1 - The Health Nut
This is the average healthy eater who has some nutritional know-how. They watch their sugar intake, may not eat gluten, and might do almond milk instead of dairy. Basic nutritional know how. Maybe they take a multi-vitamin or some vitamin D. At this level, you might also be balancing your macro-nutrients in your meals (watching your protein, fat, and carb intake.) You might aim to have a salad everyday. At this level, you also tend to think that the diet that works great for you, will also work great for everyone else too - which how we get fanatical vegans, or fanatical meat-eaters - you think everyone should eat as you do. So at this level, we know some things, but we still believe some myths too.
At Stage 1 - you might have the salad pictured above, and say, "I'm having a spinach salad, that's healthy. Spinach has iron and strawberries are rich in anti-oxidants."
I battled candida for a long time. It would go away, then come back. So I eventually got creative and asked myself, "What the frick is going on here?? What can I do to end this?" Here's some of my answers...
1. Make Love, Not War
War is never wise. So instead of just attacking the candida with garlic, oregano oil or what not...instead focus on loving your body in all ways. So - do you need Vitamin D? Is your bedroom too dark? Have you been feeling down a lot? Everything that weakens you, makes you more susceptible to candida over-growth. Making war on Candida is very different than aiming to nourish and love your body and create health. Do everything you can to heal yourself, and start with what's obvious or what you're drawn to do. As you support your body, your body will handle the candida. You have an immune system, that's it's job.
They are A New Earth - Eckhart Tolle, Power vs Force - David Hawkins, Integrative Nutrition - Joshua Rosenthal, and anything by David Deida.
For a while I read so much that my body suffered. But what did come out of that is that I expanded my mind in numerous ways, enriched my vocab, and basically did brain-yoga pretty much daily. Brain-yoga is what I call it when a book is hard to understand, but you push through anyway, and it leaves you going, "WOW". Brain yoga, I've learned, is very good for us. So without further ado, here are some of the books that rocked my world:
Here's a snack I'm liking, it's easy:
1. take 2 walnut halves
2. Stick a date in the middle
I know, the pic has it backwards.
Sometimes it be hard to feel grateful for things as they are...and that's why I wrote this. Because things ARE improving, like never before.
Want to feel grateful for the world as it is? See the movie above/left. You'll go, "Holy shit. I'm glad to be alive now." Click the image for the trailer.
First let's look back just 150 years, to 1870. What was life like then?
Well, for starters, there was no anaesthetic. Just imagine a trip to the dentist. But we did have vodka! And there was no contraception either. I have actually read about people using pig intestines. So back then, sex often led to babies, not a good situation if you were poor and had a high sex drive... And check out transportation: if you want to travel to the next town over, it might take 2 weeks... and your horse and carriage had no heat, no radio, was noisy...and you might get half way there and realize you have run out of water. Yikes.
And that's just 100 years ago. If you go back further, it was even worse, with increasing superstition and paranoia the further back you do.
Which brings me to say this:
Now is actually the best time to be alive in history.
Today getting enough sleep is all the rage. Suddenly we're all realizing that ZZzz's are as important as ABC's - sleep is basic, and if you don't get enough of it, you're more likely to make mistakes, have less mood control, crave more carbs, age faster, and be less good in bed (What? No!). Turns out "I'll sleep when I'm dead" isn't a good plan after all.
But *how* to sleep well? We hear over and over to reduce screen time in the evening. I even read over and over not to keep any electronics in the bedroom - but not easy to do if your bedroom doubles as your office.
So what then, are the other keys to ZZz's?
Gonna keep this one short...
I read a while ago something in a book by Dr. Mark Hyman, that brilliant health educator, about the diets of eskimos, vs the diets of sumo wrestlers.
Mark Hyman was explaining how sumo wrestlers put on fat: they eat a huge meal of a lot of rice or noodles, then they go to sleep.
Hi, I'm Donovan Giraud. I'm a health coach, meditator and visionary, and I'm on a mission to help people heal themselves and evolve our world.